Advice for Social Struggles

Advice for Social Struggles

I’ve always had this intense feeling to be liked. Last year, I had an eating disorder and pulled myself away from everything. My personality was gone in a way. Now that I have recovered, I am showing the world how awesome I am, but my friends are distancing themselves from me and I am now realizing that these relationships are not as healthy as they could be. I am now trying to find new friends that will be full of love, respect, and trust. I just need help finding new friends without seeming clingy or needy. Advice?

CONSIDER THIS:

  • You are strong for being in recovery from your eating disorder and re-evaluating relationships being in recovery.  Realize that there will always be friends who support you and want the best for you and others who may not understand that you have changed or may not like the changes they see. These changes are good like you said.
  • Be yourself around people.  Let them see how awesome you are.  If you show them love, respect, honesty and trust then they will give it back to you if they are true friends.
  • You do not need to let these new people know about your past.  Recovery is about creating a new you. A better, stronger person who is learning to overcome barriers and challenges instead of hurting yourself or others.

HELP YOURSELF:

  • Try talking to your friends that you feel you can trust.  Talk to them about how you are changing for the better and what they see in  you as a friend.  What advise would they have for you?
  • What things are you looking for in a friendship?  What things do you want to avoid?
  • If you are seeing a therapist (or talk to another adult) what advise would they give you for creating new friendships?