Family Troubles

Family Troubles

I am a normal teenager. I hook up with guys, I smoke weed, and I drink alcohol. They all help de-stress me. I don’t do it too often because I know it is bad for me. I get a lot of that stuff from meeting people online. I’m very careful and safe when I go to meet them. I take many precautions and I’m not reckless. Like many other teenagers, my phone is my baby. I love it more than my family. I keep all of my personal and privates thoughts on it. I went to a therapist who told my parents to get all the information (without talking to me first) about me meeting with guys online. And sure enough, they did. They went through all of my texts and emails and I wish they had never brought me into this world. I want to jump out a window. If I survive I want to run away, but I would be more content if I died. I hate my parents so much and can’t stand to be around them. Just the thought of them can put me in a terrible place. I fear my mother’s voice. Every time I hear it I just want to stab my heart, kill her, and swallow a ton of pills. In order to type this I got lucky. My sister came home from college and allowed me to borrow her computer. My parents also treat me way differently than they did my sister and that also drives me insane! I know she was a better kid, but now they’re going to jail-break my computer, read all of my texts, and know everything about me. I’d rather die than allow that to happen. Someone, please tell me what to do.

CONSIDER THIS

  • It is very hard to trust parents when they go through your personal things without telling you. Even if it is because they care about you and don’t want you to be harmed.
  • Maybe you can talk with a trusted adult like your sister or friend about what happened and why it happened. Try to look at it from your parents’ perspective and think how you might feel if your daughter was engaging in risky behaviors.
  • You can always call the Child Help hotline the next time you’re feeling upset with your parents. You’ll be able to speak to a professional counselor who’ll listen to your situation, and not judge you. The toll-free number is 1-800-422-4453. The help line is available 24/7 and it’s totally confidential.
  • Some people find it helpful to have a “detour” they can take when they’re feeling overwhelmed with life’s stresses. You might consider some sort of exercise such as walking/running, going to the gym, listening to music, writing in a journal, etc. Just find something you enjoy and do it!
  • Smoking weed, drinking alcohol, and having sex are all really risky, and can result in some serious consequences. Take a moment to consider the possible outcomes before moving forward with these actions.

HELP YOURSELF

  • What would happen if you talked with a trusted adult or friend about how you reached this point in your life and why?
  • What kind of positive plan can you come up with to not harm anyone but be beneficial to you to improve your situation in a positive matter?
  • What would happen if you stopped being a normal teenager of using substances and intimacy to de-stress and tried more healthy ways of distressing to benefit you like exercise, meditation, writing or art?
  • How would your opinion on this situation change if you were the parent and your child was making the risky choices you’re currently making?