Should I Tell My Roommate I’m Bisexual?

Should I Tell My Roommate I’m Bisexual?

I’m a HS Senior and an in-the-closet bisexual. I’m going to college next year and I have to start connecting with people who are going to my university to try and find a roommate. Since I am bisexual but no one really knows, should I tell my roommate? I feel like I should, out of respect for them so they feel safe and secure in a space. But on the other hand, who cares if I’m gay or not? I’m looking for opinions. Thanks.


  • Being bisexual can sometimes make you feel misunderstood by others. You are kind for considering the feelings of others in this transitional time.
  • It is your choice if you would like to tell anyone whether you are bisexual or not. Think further about the wisdom of informing others about your sexuality because not everyone is open to newer ideas.
  • Try getting to know your roommate first. If this person seems nice, they might enjoy hearing about your personal life.
  • Make a list of the pros and cons of telling your roommate. If the pros outweigh the cons it may be best.
  • You may be right to tell them first because they may feel disrespected if they find out after they’ve moved in. Think about how you would react if you were in their shoes.
  • No matter what, make sure to respect yourself first. If you don’t feel comfortable with telling someone about your bisexuality you don’t have to. Your sexual preference is nobody’s business.
  • Be prepared for a positive or negative reaction to your news so your feelings don’t get hurt too much. Think about the possible outcomes.
  • For helpful resources check out the Teen Central website, head to the Learn tab, click on Sexuality then click LGBTQ.


  • How would you feel if you were your roommate and you weren’t told about someone’s bisexuality?
  • What kind of person would be your ideal roommate?
  • In what ways could you make the decor of your room more comfortable for you and your roommate?
  • In what ways could you bond with your roommate?