Teen Crush Help

Teen Crush Help

I met this guy on a school trip and I immediately found him attractive.  He’s really good friends with my friends. I didn’t want to make that awkward, so I tried to deny it.  Now, we’re really good friends – we talk every night for at least an hour. I feel like I can open up to him, and he always comes to sit next to me at school.  Recently, rumors have been spreading that he likes two of my best friends, but his best friends said that he likes me.  I don’t really believe him.  My crush has been paying a lot of attention to me lately. He’s been saying how my eyes are really big, and how I get dimples when I smile, etc. But,  I still don’t know if he likes me. Whenever he knows my best friend is around my house, he always asks to facetime – but never when it’s just me and him texting.  I’m so confused and just wanted somebody else’s opinion.  Thanks.

CONSIDER THIS:

You are understandably confused.  You really like a guy that you have gotten to know really well, but you are getting mixed signals about whether or not he likes you as more than a friend.  You want someone to talk to to figure out what to do about the situation. You don’t really feel that you can discuss the problem with your best friends, because you don’t know whether he likes them instead of you.

Thanks for sharing your story on Teencentral.net.  You should consider reading other teens stories about their crushes.  You may find that someone has been in a similar situation, and you might be able to learn it.  You are correct that talking to someone about your feelings, the situation, and what you should do about everything would be helpful.  Choosing the person to discuss this with is a little challenging because your best friends are involved.  Think about who else you trust, who cares about you that you can speak to to get advice.  It doesn’t have to be someone who knows this guy, just someone who you can go to for advice and confidentiality.  This might be a family member or someone who you are friends with but not one of the friends that this guy might like.  Once you have decided who to talk to, think about what you want to tell them and what kind of advice you would like from them.

You have a few choices about what to do about your situation, including just waiting to see what happens.  Sometimes, it can be helpful to make a list of your choices and also the pros and cons of making each choice.  Consider taking the time to think about all the possible actions you can take in this situation and what the pros and cons of each action would be.  By the end of this exercise, you should have a pretty good idea of what your choices are.  Good luck!

HELP YOURSELF:

Who are some people who you can go to for advice about what to do?

What are some of the actions that you can take in this situation?

What are the pros and cons of some of these actions?

If one of your good friends was in a similar situation, what would you advise her to do?